It is VITAL that BOTH husband and wife truly UNDERSTAND their roles and functions in the covenant of marriage - a SET-APART institution of Almighty YHUH that should be honored and respected by all.
Husbands seek to be honored and respected - the "hero" of his wife. Wives desire their husbands to listen to them, consider their emotions, be sensitive to them, and to never stop courting them. They also desire men to respect their bodies (not seeing his wife as his sex object). NEVER CRITICIZE your SPOUSE in front of ANYONE and do not DISCUSS your SPOUSE with ANYONE, UNLESS your life (or the children's lives) are THREATENED. WHATEVER you say about, or do to your SPOUSE, will RETURN to you and affect you PERSONALLY, because you are ONE (COVENANT) with your husband/wife! {SOWING and REAPING PRINCIPLE} Let's look at the ROLE of the HUSBAND . . . = He is the Head of the marriage (and home) and should therefore always take spiritual lead = The household is his responsibility as Head and [Priest] of the home, and he should request his wife (as his helper) to assist him with household tasks = He should love his wife as Messiah Yahusha loved the body of Believers and be willing to lay down his life for his wife = He should respect and honor his wife and be honest with her in everything = He should pray for his wife, children and their household and not live in strive with his wife (lest his prayers be hindered) = He should wash his wife with the Word daily = He should protect his wife = He should provide for his wife = He should bless his wife and children (daily) = He should care for his wife and be sensitive to ALL her needs -- spiritually, emotionally, physically, intellectually, socially and financially I would strongly advise ONE MUTUAL BANKING ACCOUNT - as the covenant is ALL INCLUSIVE and NOTHING EXCLUSIVE . . . we no longer talk ABOUT MINE, BUT ours! UNITY in marriage equals complete trust and accountability to one another! SCRIPTURE REFERENCES:
Gen 2:18 And יהוה (YHUH) Elohim (Almighty) said, “It is not good for the man to be alone, I am going to make a helper for him, as his counterpart.” Gen 1:28 And Elohim blessed them, and Elohim said to them, “Bear fruit and increase, and fill the earth and subdue it, and rule over the fish of the sea, and over the birds of the heavens, and over all creatures moving on the earth.” Eph 5:23, 25-28 Because the husband is head of the wife, as also the Messiah is head of the assembly, and He is Saviour of the body. Husbands, love your wives, as Messiah also did love the assembly and gave Himself for it, in order to set it apart and cleanse it with the washing of water by the Word, in order to present it to Himself a splendid assembly, not having spot or wrinkle or any of this sort, but that it might be set-apart and blameless. In this way husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. Eph 5:31 “For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 1Cor 7:3-5 Let the husband render to his wife what is her due, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another except with agreement for a time, to give yourselves to fasting and prayer. And come together again so that Satan does not try you because of your lack of self-control. 1Cor 7:33 But he who is married is concerned about the [matters] of the world – how to please his wife. 1Tim 3:2-4 An overseer (the husband can be deemed as the overseer of his family), then, should be blameless, the husband of one wife, sober, sensible, orderly, kind to strangers, able to teach, not given to wine, no brawler, but gentle, not quarrelsome, no lover of money, one who rules his own house well, having his children in subjection with all reverence. |
Let's look at the Role of the WIFE . . .
= She is the helper of her husband and should submit to his spiritual lead = She should ask her husband how she can help him with household tasks (like washing, ironing, etc), serving him as unto Messiah = She should respect and honor her husband and be honest with him in everything = She should pray for her husband and be his faithful intercessor = She should not challenge her husbands authority as Priest of the home (unless her husband acts unrighteously -- approach him in love and don't attack his character or manhood) = She should be sensitive to ALL her husband's needs, especially his sexual needs (as men are inclined to want to make love more often than women) Communicate during sexual intimacy and tell each other what you like and dislike SCRIPTURE REFERENCES:
Gen 2:18 And יהוה (YHUH) Elohim (Almighty) said, “It is not good for the man to be alone, I am going to make a helper for him, as his counterpart.” Gen 1:28 And Elohim blessed them, and Elohim said to them, “Bear fruit and increase, and fill the earth and subdue it, and rule over the fish of the sea, and over the birds of the heavens, and over all creatures moving on the earth.” Eph 5:22-23 Wives, subject yourselves to your own husbands, as to the Master. Because the husband is head of the wife, as also the Messiah is head of the assembly, and He is Saviour of the body. Eph 5:33 However, you too, everyone, let each one love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she fears her husband. 1Cor 7:3-5 Let the husband render to his wife what is her due, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another except with agreement for a time, to give yourselves to fasting and prayer. And come together again so that Satan does not try you because of your lack of self-control. |